The Fourth Wall...a new superstition

Breaking the 4th wall LOL!

Have you ever heard of the “fourth wall”? If you are an actor or work in theatre than you probably know that the “fourth wall" is an imaginary wall between the audience and the actors on stage.  Even though I am fully aware of stage rules, I didn’t know about this wall. I mean I didn’t know there was a term for it. My brother informed me about it when he was technically forced against his will to listen to The- Dream and in the song Sex Intelligent, The -Dream sings  : Know this song is over….and my brother was like he just broke the 4^th wall and I was like what…so my brother began to ramble as he does in the voice that came from our father and tells me all about this wall… so I say oh yeah Marques Houston does that in another song called Mattress Music and he sings: First I want to thank you for buying this cd, I promise when you hear it, you’ll be thanking me….  Any way I didn’t think about this wall much until last night!



I have been chatting with a facebook friend for about 3 days now and this person is pretty cool, technically he’s local and because he sort of grew up in Dover/Camden, and went to school around here he is in my safety zone.  (Everyone is assumed to be a murderer regardless of the safety zone creditals) So he has my number and wanted to upgrade our convo to a phone call and even though there is nothing wrong with this I am really trying to do these relationship things centimeter by centimeter, not that it’s that serious, I just feel like other situations moved too fast and ended in the same speed…slow motion might make things last longer, or end quicker… I just feel a way about these things now so taking time is best.  During our convo  I told him his profile pic reminded me of an example internet pic, you know how you like go to a site and it teaches you how to use the site and in the example they have a picture of whomever doing whatever or like you google pictures of something and all the pics are like set up professionally like an ad…that’s what his profile pic looks like. So I said that he might not even be a real person.

One of those internet
not real ppl pics

We both thought that this stuff I was saying at probably 12am or 1 am was hilarious and I guess the idea of him being an imaginary person made him want to call or maybe it was the inconvenience of typing I dunno but I didn’t want him to call me so I told him it would break the fourth wall and it all snow balled in to  the most hilarious bunch of jokes ever. 

Now I get to the point of this blog…unfortunately I was serious about this fourth wall and I made up excuses so he wouldn’t call but the truth is…fear.  I guess I’ve been down this road before…I meet someone virtually or in real life, we chit chat, it’s the best convos in the longest, so much in common, he’s attractive or his personally overrides something that is unattractive, we decide to meet, we date, we crash, and then we burn and I am left to think about how dumb I was for allowing them in my life to begin with.  I felt that if he had of called me, he WOULD have broken the fourth wall and the show would plummeted from there. Jinx…a phone call would have been a jinx. Like I was joking saying a phone call would have been like the movie the Adjustment Bureau because he broke the fourth wall and the earth would shatter, something would have shattered. 

I know this all seems silly, but sometimes insecurities and emotional wounds create another realm of problems.  You get caught up in trying to make sure that you aren’t hurt again. If it stays at a lower friendship level you shouldn’t get hurt right? (Apparently this is called undermining) I think at times my mind is clouded with so much and that is the big reason I decided to try and work on my goals…I tend to get lost while in relationships because I forget my role is GIRLFRIEND not WIFE not even COMMON LAW WIFE. It took me a minute to understand that this is what my mom’s point has been all this time. I just want to make sure at the end of the day I’ve got all that I need for me regardless of who is at my side and if I decide to share it with them or not you know.

The fourth wall maybe imaginary and it is easily broken but try to keep it up for a while, make sure you  have a strong foundation in yourself, and then break the barrier. That’s what I’ll be working on.

When you are ready Karate Kick the wall down!

Shopsdrops Syndrome...coping with Clotheswhorism!

I had an appointment in which my outfit had to be so so…ok it was an interview…. Now everyone knows that the official interview outfit is a black suit, slacks or a skirt, or blue suit of the same. I absolutely hate this…I mean if there was something I could do away with, it would be the black suit, and  at times the LBD, Little Black Dress…sure both are sexy, but at times absolutely boring.  (I also don't care for the color black because it is so dreary and slims me in which I don't really need to look any slimer since I have been slimming down anyway and that is pissing off, but that is another blog for another day.)

I thought  this interview was going to be a bit more relaxed, so I asked my mom what she thought I should wear hoping she would say kahkis or something…and her response was: "well everyone has been wearing black suits"…(the interviews were in the building she currently works in) so immediately I became disgruntled, and these are the words that came out of my mouth that were etched into my head: “I hate black suits, they don’t show personality.” And as I walked out to walk my dog, it hit me like a ton of bricks: I am too dependent on my clothes.

I thought about that as I walked down the street with the pup. It became clear to me why the basic black/blue suit is used…they want to see you the person…not you the cute outfit. Like if I had of worn the outfit I wanted to wear (which I wore to substitute a 6^th grade class and one young lady said: you can dress!) they would have seen the cute outfit, but not me the person. I mean some people use that to their advantage…a woman can use her sex appeal with men…for me that was unnecessary (all women panel).

Overall I felt some kind of way about myself. I felt like a clotheswhore. I thought about my daily activities with clothes and how lately I've been feeling like if I think something is missing from my outfit I need to buy it…like ASAP…like I wanted to wear a particular dress that's brown and cafe with a few spots of fushia and I wanted to highlight the fushia. I have fushia sandals and a fushia purse, but I needed like a fushia jacket because I always need something for my arms, I wanted to go somewhere right then at that moment and buy the piece that I needed, but I couldn't so I had to put something else on. This happens on a regular basis and I by clothes, shoes, purses and accesories anytime I am paid...and that is a problem.

A nice outfit makes me feel good, then if people compliment me it is instant gratification so clothes go a long way, but I should be confident in  sweats...and I mean those "I am on my period sweats," LOL! But I don't. I have felt like crying when my outfits weren't coming out as planned. I spend time and money to find items I need to make complete outfits. I guess this really isn't as big of a problem as one might think, but overall I do feel like at times I let clothes speak for me, they say look: isn't this printed dress cute and don't I seem a little bit more personable in it? When really I have to speak real words to be personable.

See this is a learned behavior,
 my mother taught me LOL!

It is important for me to look good, and when it comes to my look I am also a perfectionist and it bugs the hell out of me if just one piece of hair is out of place ( I have taught myself to realize we can't be perfect so relax) and I also dress for MYSELF. Let's be really people make assumptions everyday based off of how someone looks...I would prefer someone think that I am classy, rich, and a nice person than to think that I am a floosey because I have on some high heels and a short skirt, (not that I wouldn't where this in the appropriate atmosphere)  People notice; girls and guys, some people say they like it, some don't and others I KNOW hate (which is another reason for my dressing) but overall I dress the way I dress because I represent myself and I want someone to see a professional sometimes, spunky, or classy, or girlie, most of all womanly. Not trashy or as Destiny's Child described a Nasty Girl.  So even though at times my dressing is a lil OCD with colors, matching, accesories, and shoes there is an overall reason. I just need to know how to ensure how to show my personality with or with out the pretty clothes.

By the way I got the job even if it is just over the summer it is a door opening opportunity, which means my goals are so coming along!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Goals achieved for 2011

1.) Enrolled in a Master of Spec. ED. progam

2.) Position Aquired as Summer School Para Professional!

3.)

4.)

5.)

Got a few more to go.... :-)

By Chance....

I told someone that in so many ways God let me know that I would get everything that want/need and I would be happy so I don’t have to worry. The person must not have understood completely because he was like “well I live like everyday is my last and I go after what I want.” I took that as he thought I was saying I don’t go after the things I want I just wait for God to do his thing… not so much but in a since yes….

So I was thinking of meeting the “One.”

Today dating is like one click away there are so many sites that claim to be able to match people and if people don’t use dating sites then they use facebook or other social networks to find possible “soul mates.” Not me. Well I don’t go on specifically looking for boyfriends, if they find me well that’s different. 

Which leads me to my point…I want to be found and preferably not on the internet. I basically created a scenario of what I would like to happen one day in my life. I recently heard a quote that was like: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him what YOU want to do,” or something like that, and that’s funny because everyone knows that life is on behalf of God’s Will, but hey there is prayer right in which you ask God for what you want and he gives you what you want as He sees needed. This concept is something that I totally understand but I still like to day dream…this is how I would like to meet the one…

  Randomly, as in by chance. I would want to be somewhere like in the mall or at school or a place in real life opposed to the internet. I would hope that he would have enough courage to speak to me, that is if I want him to speak to me…meaning if this happens and I am not attracted or don’t find him appealing then I probably don’t want him to speak to me but if I do then I hope he speaks. I hope that a classic conversation would ensue and at the end we exchange numbers or something. 

It just doesn’t happen like this anymore.

 I have met more guys from Facebook or the once popular Myspace in the past couple of years than in flesh and blood.  It’s not horrible meeting people this way but I still have mayor trust issues with the internet I mean too many crazies have access to profiles.  Plus I am old school I like meeting people in reality, even if they are just as crazy too.  Even though I seclude myself and have become a rather solo dolo person, I am pretty sociable. I enjoy meeting people, I don’t mind going up to someone and being like” yo what’s up”…that’s me, but in my traditional world I don’t want to be the one to hit someone up first. My philosophy has become if he doesn’t speak then it wasn’t meant to be and I can forget a face as quick as I “fell in love” with that face.  Sometimes I look at it like “he’s just not that in to me.” If a guy gets at me and we text or talk a little and then he disappears…good redden to rubbish. I am not going to chase dude down…I feel like I have shown my interest in speaking to you in the first place so if you don’t continue to speak to me well then you must have lost interest. Same goes if you hit me up and I don’t respond then I’m  not interest…BUT if you say something to me, and I respond and you don’t respond back then I say something else to you and you still don’t respond…that’s it. You are only going to get so many chances with me.

Overall it just sucks that meeting people in person is like pulling teeth…meeting the RIGHT people in person is like pulling teeth.

But yeah that is how I would love to meet someone.  Is that so wrong to ask…by chance, in person, hold a conversation (meaningful conversation) and take it from there….

WANTED: Traditional Good Time....

So would I be like selling myself short (or better yet would I appear desperate) if I went on Facebook and announced that I need a date?

 My ad would sound something to the effect of: 

Hi all…I am looking to go out on a Friday evening or Saturday afternoon in which a “date” will pick me up. The venue: Friendly’s where we can partake in a small entrée and an ice cream sundae. We will engage in small talk with jokes and laughs as we eat. Once finish the date will offer to pay and maybe I will say, “Thanks,” and maybe I will say, “that’s ok I’ll take care of my portion,” but in no way will I be paying for both of us. We will enjoy a nice car ride (I will enjoy a car ride you will drive) back to my house where I will say “deuces,” and go inside. We don’t have to talk ever again in life. I am just looking for a nice night or afternoon with Ice-cream….

Or…

I am looking for someone who would like to take me to Secrets night club in Ocean City, MD. You must be attractive 23+ years in age, football player build, 5’11-6’4 ht, 195-220 wt. Race doesn’t matter. Height and Weight does!!! Looking to relive a past experience at the club and a moment on the beach….

LOL!

The date I am more interested in is the Ice-cream date and the sad thing is I have someone in mind for both, and I would, but I don’t want to ask him. (There is a follow up blog to this topic)

Meeting people, when you treat yourself like a shut in, is very hard…lol….Let us evaluate my life: I work at a college and have watched the young men come and go thinking that I am too old and too unapproachable. (I am neither of the two by the way.)  I Sub…in which the adult population is very feminine based, or there are old men or old married men…clearly I am a cougar so that doesn’t work for me. (This is what working at a college has done to me.) I am now enrolled in classes for my master’s (please note my resolutions) and so far mostly women fill classes with older gentlemen here and there. I do nothing and the guys I have liked are equally unable to be a boyfriend of my standards. One in a sense can’t and the other probably the other is dreamy….as in your dreams…he makes me feel like that high school sophomore who likes that senior who doesn’t notice me…I mean them, at all and has a girlfriend to boot…

You know it is so funny how you can say you want this or that in a guy or girl but really you don’t know what you want or need which is why at the end of the day this is another “Let God” moment, because whoever is sent to find me I am so sure will be EXACTLY, EVERYTHING that I need for me and vice versa…you know I for him. I just have to make sure I remember what Mr. Adams said every morning: “Be at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.”    

By the way to answer my question at the introduction: Yes! But not just desperate, slightly pathetic too.

Running Scared…

I tell you what, writing/telling people your goals is one thing but making them happening is another. Here I am, again about to take the first step in making accomplishing a goal; the same goal I have been saying since Fall 2010 and as I prepare to take that step fear washes over me like a rain shower, paralyzing my movement and momentum.  I guess the more you are told no the more you expected to be let down resulting in you never wanting to try. The more you think about the extra responsibilities that come with your goal the more you question yourself and your abilities to perform the required tasks. You fear making mistakes.  Now as those fears devour me prolong the first step, which is to simply fill out an application online, upload a resume and cover letter and click send and the rest will be up to Human Resources, but the first step is pretty easy right….not as I make myself sick thinking about all the possibilities of getting or not getting a position.

And just like I knew would happen as I started typing this up, I am reminded about faith. If I can have faith in God about EVERYTHING, but certain things I lose it and start getting all nervous and messed up, and really all I need to remember is that God will take care of me period. If I apply and get it God will help me make it through my responsibilities and show me the right path to take when making decisions. If I don’t get it then he will console me and will have another opportunity for me.

That word of advice ought to get me through the first step alone…. Resume is looking right, better than that though, my work ethic has been seen…so in the words of today’s youth…. “Leggo!”

Goals achieved for 2011

1.) Enrolled in a Master of Spec. ED. progam

2.)

3.)

4.)

5.)

Got a few more to go.... :-)

He is the ONE!!!...not so much...

One day you are walking through the mall and you notice someone checking you out. He/she is cute so you do as I would do and check back. He/She doesn't have "kahunas" to say something to you. You continue about your business and on the way back down the mall you see this person again who this time grew a pair.

"Hey, they say, how are you?"
"Fine, and you?" You say. Now if they are in the pimpology school and have a master's in mackology they will say, "I know you are fine," but hopefully they aren't and they will just say, "I good, you know I saw you and thought you are attractive, and I was just wondering if I could get your number." You say: "Sure," because this guy/girl is the best looking thing you have seen since Steve Urkel transformed in to Stephon Ur-Kel. As a matter of fact this man/woman decides to treat you to a quick lunch at that very moment. You and this person talk that day and there are several things he/she mentions: they attend a church, they like kids, they would like to be married before they are 30, and they like the beach. So the impromptu date ends and you leave feeling like you have met a great guy/girl and can't want to talk with them again. Also your brain has picked out your wedding dress, what colors to coordinate with, the fact that you can reserve the Sheraton for the wedding and reception and that his last name sound good after your first name or that her first name sounds great with your last name. This leads to my point:


My pastor said something that I will have to inscribe to my heart. It was something to the effect of seeing a wife/husband in people who are only seasonal. Meaning don't be quick to think someone is the one when they are only there to teach you one simple thing that particular season. (I think Madea said the same thing). He went on to say some people are married to a seasonal person....All because you fell before you thought. I have done that...I know men do it too, it might not seem like it but they do, I mean they are the ones proposing in most cases....

I have grown up in the sense that I let people go...it took a minute to learn...I am a person who when I feel it I feel it and it is already full blown and if I don't feel it I never will so you might as well stop trying. When I feel it...it's a hard fall from that feeling. I discovered a longtime ago that I just can't deal with bullshyzer. If you are a hurting person who also likes to hurt in the process of your hurting, then as my girl Mariah said it: "It's a Wrap" and "Up out my face." Yeah sometimes the feeling lingers so I then I have to go to the other track on the Memoirs of an Imperfect Angel album called: H.A.T.E.U, as Mariah sings:

I can't wait to hate you
Make you pain like I do
Still can't shake you off
I can't wait to break through these emotional changes
Seems like such a lost cause
I can't wait to face you
Break you down so low there's no place left to go
I can't wait to hate you
oooh (hou, owh, owh, h.a.t.e. u.)

Actually I can use Mariah Carey to break down the whole affair starting with:

"Lover Boy"- Describes the awesome-newness of this dude/girl

"Honey"- How his/her love makes you feel

"Last Kiss"- When it's over

"We Belong Together"- when you miss them like crazy and you want to work it out

"Don't forget about us"- I was the best you ever had don't act like you don't know that chick ain't got nothing on me.

"H.A.T.E.U"- when you know you need to get over it.

"It's a wrap/Up out my face."- I'm over it leave me alone

The bonus track is "Deuces" by Chris Brown, that's when you really know that it is sooooo over. It's not Mariah, but it makes my point . 

If we could keep ourselves from planning the wedding on the second date then we would save ourselves the heartache. If we could be real with ourselves and admit to the issues that the person we say we are in love have then we would be better off, meaning if there is something about this guy/girl that is foul to you, you might want to ease back and then finally off...just watch Cheaters and listen to all the quooky things men/women do/say in while cheating...not that that's the only cause of quooky things, but it gives good examples.

Insufficient Funds and No Overdraft Protect: When Flirting Goes Wrong

Sometimes I wonder am I a player or am I playing myself? Like am I cheating myself or as my uncle would say “Playing with my OWN a$$” or am really causing the grief I THINK I am causing to these fellas. Once,  I told someone I could make them fall in love with me and I can and I am not being cocky, but I can’t not share my secrets and it has nothing to do with sex and I am pretty sure this is a run on sentence. My point for all of that is that I wonder if really I am kidding myself and the mind F*** is not being cause by me but to me by the idiot on the other end.

This whole thought occurred as I flirted with one of my sweetie doo wops who, I think the word is, swoons for my affection that I simply cannot give because I don’t agree with affection giving all willie nille and by affections I mean sex (if you want to get technical).  Anyway…I say some magical words that get in his head and I don’t know why because any response he gives will be ignored and only thought as more pursuits for something that I can relinquish so why bother with the flirting….it’s sort of like another saying from my uncle “don’t write the check that you’re a$$ can’t cash.”

I guess sometimes my flirtations, as much as it can make me feel good, leaves me sort of depressed too.  You say a little something, they say a little something, you say something like, good seeing you today next thing you know there is a picture text of a penis on your phone…yikes…which is when you:

 “Get away!”

I guess the depressing part of this is the fact that you learn very soon that the flirtations will amount to nothing more that… flirtations…in some cases it’s not even the dude who is playing themselves it’s you…or in this case me…I already know I don’t have the cash to take care of the check and my bank account doesn’t have overdraft protection…therefore the answer to my wondering is…yes I am playing myself….

But I am what I am…

Suburan Elite...

Ooh it's the lights (It's the lights)
Action! (Action)
Hollywood (Hollywood)
Ooh it's the lights (Satisfaction)
Satisfaction! (So addictive)
(Hey) Hollywood (Hollywood)- Jay Z and Beyonce from "Hollywood"

This is not Sex in the City...

but sometimes...it is like Material Girls....

I have never watched Material Girls I am saving the dvd for complete epic boredom, but I do know the premise...rich girls who are heiresses and materialistic lose money. Today I realized I am a toned down version of that....I am not an heiress but when I am feeling good nothing can tell me I am not Paris Hilton or in my case...Angela and Vanessa Simmons. Put a little money in my hand let the sun shine give me a frozen almond or white chocolate mocha with whip cream ooo and don't forget the fake a$$ ugg boots and skinny jeans....that was me today with my shades on like I was on Sunset Blvd. opposed to Route 8....

I guess I am a product of my society as much as I don't want to accept it I am sort of sex in the city...minus sex and the city...my show would be called Suburban Glamour, where I play the part of Daniella the self proclaimed Princess of Delaware. In the character's/my mine I think I am a social elitist but really I am border line middle class and broke, but as any American Princess I shop til I drop and get my hair done...at the goodwill and when I can afford it, regardless of whether I am rich or poor I look good and know one can tell the difference until they see my pull up in my 1991, subaru legacy complete with a sun baked faded paint job and possiblities of rainy day leakage on the inside...to Daniella it is a red ferrari...or white lambo murcielago...blasting Beyonce who instigates my princessish ways....oh and don't catch Daniella on a dramatical day...because she might not even be Daniella she maybe Deena Jones, or what was Reese Witherspoon's character's name in Legally Blonde??? 

Ok but seriously doing what was described above really helps to get pass the stress of life at times...whatever the stress may be...the stress of the possiblity of a huge zit about to grow on your nose, men troubles or bills.... sometimes taking yourself out of reality briefly helps (usually until you get home). In the summer its the same thing...I walk around my neighborhood with my snobbish pup dolled up like it's not me walking with my pup but Beyonce and Jay...(dog...man...they are equivalent) and occassionally I have fans who exclaim "You look like you walked straight out a magazine," sure he is one of my neighbors yard..."Technician" but he did say it....

   Now there is probably someone out there who is thinking I am nuts...no...trust me...take a break from your life you will feel better. I always do...even if I am just stopping by the Goodwill, or buying plan tee shirts for five bucks...

(FYI the Good Will is the perfect place to find outfits that are very much fashionable...I currently cannot wait until summer so I can sport this awesome skirt that looks like it came from Sex in the City)

...I guess playing the role of Black American Princess all these years hasn't helped either....I am the first born girl, who protrayed the perfect debutante before and after I was actually a debutante and still protrays this, and I have a pup like the rest of Hollywood and I am a tad bit spoiled, but level headed about life, meaning if you give me money thanks, but I also know I have to work for it too...my dad's name is not Warbucks or Smith (as in Will)...my husband/boyfriend is not Jay, Carmelo, or DeSean Jackson actually he is non exsistent, but every now and then playing pretend adult style is a relief....

  

The Lone Wolf: An Interpretation...

Although I am trying to separate myself from my past blog I can’t forget some of my favorite topics. My dreams are a subject I love to talk about. Sometimes they are vivid enough, I remember them and some are just way out there, but overall I feel that a dream is a way to speak to yourself; answer your own questions. Dreams are your subconscious trying to tell your conscious something.

I’ll never forget the dream I had the day before I was supposed to go to Howard. In my dream, my teeth crumbled out of my mouth and in to my hand. Now according to www.dreammoods.com one idea about teeth dreams is that: “these falling teeth dreams may be rooted in your fear of being embarrassed or making a fool of yourself in some situation. These dreams are an over-exaggeration of your worries and anxieties. Perhaps you feel that you are unprepared for the task at hand. However, you will find that your worries are unfounded in most cases. Sometimes what plays out in your mind is far worse than what is reality.”

It makes plenty of sense, a small town girl like myself headed to the nation’s capital, to a huge school, where the majority would be African Americans and up to that point I’d spent a lot of class time with Caucasians; I had reasons to be worried or have fear. What was I getting myself into…luckily most of the kids at Howard were just like me….

My most recent dream was interesting and sort of shocked me. Rarely do I dream about animals, but in this dream I was walking my pup down the street and out in the distance over on the golf course (there is a golf course that is not apart of my neighborhood but its viewable from my street) I saw three black wolves playing in the snow. Now the only reason I got nervous when I saw them was because I didn’t want my dog to see them and trip out, but aside from that I was not afraid. Like I said they were just playing like kids. The white of their eyes was so white and clear. 

Of course I went to my favorite dream site and found:

Wolf

To see a wolf in your dream, symbolizes survival, beauty, solitude, mystery, self-confidence and pride. You are able to keep your composure in a variety of social circumstances and blend into any situation with ease and grace. You are also a loner by choice.

Negatively, the wolf represents hostility, aggression, or sneakiness. It may reflect an uncontrollable situation or an all-consuming force in your life. This could point to an obsession, an addiction or something that is beyond your control.

Knowing I don’t have an obsession (aside from Michael Jackson, Mighty Morphin Power Rangers and Gorgeous men) I am sure I can look at the positive of this definition.  I mean really it makes more sense anyway. I especially love where it says that “You are a loner by choice.” That is totally correct. I tend to separate myself from people most of the time.

But let’s look at the fact that there were three wolves. According to: http://www.whats-your-sign.com/spiritual-meaning-of-numbers.html

Three: The spiritual meaning of number Three deals with magic, intuition, fecundity, and advantage. The number Three invokes expression, versatility, and pure joy of creativity. Three is also a time identifier as it represents Past, Present and Future. Consecutive Threes in your life may symbolize the need to express yourself creatively, or consider your present directional path in relation to past events and future goals. Three may also represent promising new adventures, and assurance of cooperation from others whom you may require help. Three typically symbolizes reward and success in most undertakings.

Once again, more positive points. I like that because sometimes dreams are not so positive and according to the bible three represents divine perfection. So I would like to do a reading on myself….

“I am a survivor of many ordeals that have had effects on me; having been sick and near death, and romantically break-up, make-ups, break-ups, and deaths of several loved ones in a year. Surviving these things has only helped me to understand my strengths and therefore adding to my self confidence and pushing me towards making decisions about goals that I am finally able to work on accomplishing. Now in reference to three, I am pretty sure that with the accomplishment of the goals set that I am literally finger tips away from meeting, there will be “promising new adventures” and clearly success. Because three represent divine perfection I am sure that means that at this time in my life everything is divinely lined up in order meaning finally the happiness and success as ME,  I have longed for will be ahead soon!”

I am glad that I had this dream…hopefully it means all of this awesome positive stuff and not that one night while I am walking my dog I am going to run into some wolves.

Also I have never watched any parts of the Twilight Saga, nor have I seen an American Werewolf in London, and I have barely seen Teenage Wolf. So those things can’t be reasons that wolves were on my mind. The only werewolf that I am very familiar with is the one from Thriller and the one that sleeps with me my pup that currently resembles a wolf.  

"Don't Let Evil Rita Put a Spell On Your Mind"

Yeah...Yeah...Yeah... I know I ought to be blogging a lot more especially coming from a blog in which I probably could publish a new post twice a day if not more. Of course that was when I was blogging on many random topics such as my many gripes of life to my favorite artist.

Sometimes I get in a funk and can’t make myself blog. I am a positive person or I like to send out positivity and when I am in a funk it is hard to stay positive, therefore I tend to ignore my blog duties. I just don’t like sending bad vibes into the world because there are already enough bad vibes.

Luckily I moved out of my “feelings” and on to my life and have been able to make some of my resolutions happen for real. And yet another unfortunate twist of events occurred as I put these resolutions into action and I got sick. The flu… it took over for a week.

While everything sat on hold again I took time to watch one of my favorite shows... the Mighty Morphin Power Rangers.Hey we all have our “things”…my thing is MMPR. When I am bored and feel like I need a break, MMPR gives me that break. It’s something from my childhood that sends me back, and takes a load off my shoulders. 

So in the midst of my sickness and in the middle of my MMPR overload I had an epiphany if you will…in the beginning of this show the enemy was Rita Repulsa who wanted to bring the rangers down …right…well I thought to myself Rita never gave up. She would have Finster create a monster send it down to Earth and the rangers would have to figure out how to beat this monster. Rita would lose and try again... always. 

So I thought to myself evil never gives up…but neither does good. I have probably seen every episode during the course of MMPR and there were times I can remember clinging to the edge of my seat as a child watching as the rangers took one step to victory and made three giant steps back. 

The command center has been destroyed, they have lost Zordon, Alpha 5 has had viruses, their zords have been destroyed, they have been under evil spells, they have lost members of the team, they have lost their powers, parents have been kidnapped, Rita was kicked out and Lord Zedd, a more evil sinister ruler showed up, later, Rita and Zedd got married to be evil together, and in the end the Rangers through the power of goodness have always beat them. 







Now I am sure you are saying, "Well Dani that is the way the show was built, good vs. evil and good will always win"…sure but that doesn’t stop this completely fantastical adventure show from teaching faith. MMPR was not known for its great acting and lines for the characters, but something they would say all the time is: “Come guys, we can’t give up.” The Pink Ranger might say: “It looks like Rita got us this time.” And the Red Ranger the leader would say: “No way, there has got to be a way to get this monster.”

Proverbs 3:5: Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

I think that sometimes I have got to start looking at life like the Power Rangers and when I am feeling some sort of way like my personal Rita is ruining my life and there is no way to win I might need to say “come on I can’t give up, I’m a power ranger” or something to that effect. How many times have we been in a similar situations as the power rangers…instead of our Zords being destroyed maybe its our bills are over due and we need gas for our car and instead of being stuck in the command center we are stuck in our beds and instead and watching Rita’s monster destroy everything on the viewing globe, we are "viewing" everyone else’s life move by on the Facebook "globe". That’s when you need to sit up and say: “Come on, I can’t give up.”

(Fan made "I Will Win" music video, music from Power Rangers)

James 1:3: because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 

Now I can take it one step further and show the similarities in the Zords to Jesus (as they were also resurrected) because the Zords were always there for the rangers when they needed them … *in preacher's voice* and when it seemed like they were destroyed or lost, they would always return good as new, (they had risen from their tomb) or when Lord Zedd arrived and appeared to be worst then Rita, the rangers didn’t think they could handle him, but were proven that they wouldn’t be given a challenge that they couldn’t handle...

...but I am not sure if people are quite ready for the ideas that boggle my mind.   

BUT.....

I Corinthians: 10:13: No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it... (NIV)

Isaiah 54:17

 But no weapon that is formed against you shall prosper...

and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment you shall show to be in the wrong. This [peace, righteousness, security, triumph over opposition] is the heritage of the servants of the Lord [those in whom the ideal Servant of the Lord is reproduced]; this is the righteousness or the vindication which they obtain from Me [this is that which I impart to them as their justification], says the Lord. (AMP)

You know what is interesting is that some ranger fans are atheists or just don't have such beliefs, but are still inspired through the show understanding that there is good and evil and that having perseverance pays off in the end....
The impact of the show is astounding and many of the fans have similar stories, the overall message:      It took me out of a dark place when...It made me feel better when... I am not going to apologize for seeing Gods work in that....

Happy Hour...Say What?

I have been off for like two weeks. Colleges don’t usually start the second semester until a week or so after New Year’s and therefore I don’t return to work until then (well this year was sort of screwed up) so I have had a lot of time to do what ever. One evening I was talking to my friend as we usually talk when he gets off and he asked: 

“So what you do today?”

I said: “Nothing, some laundry, but nothing really.” 

His response: “You didn’t do anything? You could have gone to a happy hour.” 

“Why would I do that? Why the **** would I be going to a happy hour?” I asked as I began to get upset because clearly I like this dude, and I would hope that he likes me and being that this is the case I would hope that he would want me to stay home and be chilling opposed to be going out. (I mean if you think as a sexist man wouldn’t that be your thoughts, if you were a man at work, wouldn’t you feel a way about your girl going out and if you felt differently then you must not actually like that person.) 

“I am just saying, fine if you want to be unhappy and miserable.” He said and the wheels came to a screeching halt. This comment was completely ridiculous to me. 

Do you know how many miserable and unhappy people are at happy hour? Most of them I would suspect, which is why they are at happy hour. This made me wonder about my so-called friend. I get really tired of explaining to people that I am perfectly happy with my life, in my bedroom, in my house, in Dover, Delaware; Alcohol free, and Tobacco free. But I can understand the concern.

My social life is at about zero and it only changes if someone else makes the suggestion to go to a place…for instance the same friend from the convo above took me to this club, and although I had been there before I would have never gone again had it not been for him. This same friend took me out another time with his friend and his friend’s girl…who linked me to her who then invited me to a Lia Sophia party…again I would not have been involved had it not been for my friend. So if a friend called me at 4:30pm and was like: “Dani, let’s go to blanketeeblank place for happy hour,” well depending on which friend  is asking, I would go. (Seriously it depends on the “friend” because I will turn someone down in a heartbeat.)

I do realize that this is no way to live, hence my resolution to do something without the dependence of someone else. That means go to whatever place, in my car with my money to do my thing, but overall I can’t see myself going to Happy Hour, I don’t understand this “hour.” What am I to do? I don’t really drink, meaning there are like two or three types of drinks I like, but just one of any drink makes me feel funny and therefore I probably shouldn’t drink, especially if I drive myself to a place. And if I  were to go by myself I can guarantee I will just sit there sipping a coke, and if some random jerkface says something to me I am going to ignore them. So then socialization goes all wrong and the whole alleged point to happy hour is lost.

Although I am not content in my situation which is why my resolutions are what they are, I am not completely unhappy nor miserable. I want to be social, but I don’t want to remove myself completely from my comfort zone, (which is partially why I started communicating with my “friend” to begin with, he is in my comfort zone) I am pretty sure things are going to be changing with time anyway, and I will handle my social life as I see fit.

Resolutions…

I was surprised to see how many people are excited to 2010 be apart of the past and 2011 be apart of the present - future. I don’t really agree with odd numbers and 2010 wasn’t like totally bad, (please see my 2007 to understand what bad is…), but I guess I should be excited for a new beginning also. Now, I don’t always make resolutions, because they tend to be hard to keep, but this year I think I have a few.

1.)    Something that I thought of recently was skincare and using Witch Hazel, which is like an astringent. It has a pretty awful smell, but it is really good for your skin. I was using it just about everyday and then I just stopped. Well recently it seems like my skin has decided to go on a rampage and what’s worse…I am a squeezer…I know, I know it’s wrong. Anyway I decided I will buy another bottle and begin a daily/nightly routine of using Witch Hazel for 365 days/nights and see if it makes a difference. I am pretty sure that it will because when I was using it my skin was doing pretty good.

2.)    Now I set my mind to it and I wrote a “book”. I proved to myself I could do it and now I need to prove to myself that I can carry out the next steps, which include editing and sending queries to publishers and I should do this before 2012.

3.)    Fix my prayer life. Prayer and loving Jesus shouldn’t coincide with the times that everything seem to be going wrong, so if I haven’t prayed in a month, because everything has been kosher, I don’t think it is right for me to pray when everything is not so great. (Although overall I should) It is sort of difficult to live according to God if you don’t pray, which Prayer is what he answers, so I will need to fix that ASAP.

4.)    Once my Prayer Life is back on track I will be praying on the steps I should be taking next as far as teaching goes and being that it could take a minute before I am certified I might want to apply for a para- position as I am working towards teaching, but I am still wondering if working in education is something I really want to do, therefore I need to pray about it.

5.)    Although my first step is to pray about it, I will take the Praxis I, which is a step towards becoming a teacher (or entering a teaching program)…I am going to sign up for April’s test date. PERIOD! I plan to pass it.

6.)    My friend went natural a while ago, and it’s cute, but please know that my resolution is not to go natural. Indeed not, I need a relaxer and there are no ifs and buts about it, but I do need to take better care of my hair. I sleep on my hair with out wrapping it, I don’t wash it like I should and the older I get the lazier I am about it; clearly the key to good hair care is washing at least every two weeks. This just happens to be easier in the summer because it’s not as cold. (Oh for non-African American readers, caring for African American hair is a tad different from others). I am always afraid I will get sick if I wash my hair frequently, not to mention how difficult it is for me to blow dry and flat iron, my thick fairly long hair. I prefer air dry, especially in the summer, but that style tends to be just as harsh as sleeping on it, so I’ll have to be like Nike and JUST DO IT.

7.)    With that being said I also plan on getting a haircut…not drastic like a bob, but hopefully enough that someone can tell it was cut…OH YEAH… I am so ready for a change like this J

8.)    Going back to trying to be a better person, I have decided to walk away from arguments. I have concluded that the more you talk in an argument the more you either look ignorant or say things that just make it worst. It is like I tell dudes…I’m not in to BS, so as an argument gets ready to travel to the BS level of furious-ness, I will just stop. Hopefully, I just won’t say anything and just let whoever it is win. I know that sounds push over-ish, but getting angry and raising your blood pressure is not worth it. I will pick and choose battles….DONE!

9.)    Lighten up (this is a toughie for me) I am a drama queen and extra sensitive (which is why number eight is in place). This is a fact that I try to hide, because people try to hurt others because THEY have chips on their shoulders or when they are jealous. This sort of goes with arguments except that instead of walking away, I’ll laugh it off.

10.)  To go along with number nine, I will lighten up and live life to the fullest. I think that this is a resolution that I make almost every year and it seems like I never really fully accomplish this feat. Every birthday I say to myself this will be the year that I will live a little and I never do…I never make my experience, I feel like I allow others to make it for me. I don’t want to give up my dreams, goals, and wishes, like love and family, yet I feel like those dreams stay on my shoulders. I feel like I put my life on a timer and I am watching it tic away as I just sit around and let it go by, and I don’t want to do that anymore. This is not “Sex in the City”, but damn if it is, Stranded in the Desert, or Death in Dover, or Kansas in black in white oppose to the Land of OZ in full techni-color, if you catch my drift. I am not Sarah Jessica Parker’s character or better yet that old cougar friend character, but I do want to live in color.

*Side Note: Ummm, I guess a quiet evening at home is not a good start to this Resolution...LOL*

I am just not going to lose MYSELF as I try to live like that…So I have got to find a happy medium. (I say this because many people act like in order to have fun you have to lose morals and principles or standards, and I refuse.)   

We are always trying to make a better self and New Year’s Day gives us a date that we should start, the first day of the year is the best time to proclaim that we will start something new during a new year. Now what I hope is that whatever the resolution (s) is/are can become a habit(s) of life.

2010…9…8…7…6…5…4…3…2…2011 <that’s silly huh>