One day you are walking through the mall and you notice someone checking you out. He/she is cute so you do as I would do and check back. He/She doesn't have "kahunas" to say something to you. You continue about your business and on the way back down the mall you see this person again who this time grew a pair.
"Hey, they say, how are you?"
"Fine, and you?" You say. Now if they are in the pimpology school and have a master's in mackology they will say, "I know you are fine," but hopefully they aren't and they will just say, "I good, you know I saw you and thought you are attractive, and I was just wondering if I could get your number." You say: "Sure," because this guy/girl is the best looking thing you have seen since Steve Urkel transformed in to Stephon Ur-Kel. As a matter of fact this man/woman decides to treat you to a quick lunch at that very moment. You and this person talk that day and there are several things he/she mentions: they attend a church, they like kids, they would like to be married before they are 30, and they like the beach. So the impromptu date ends and you leave feeling like you have met a great guy/girl and can't want to talk with them again. Also your brain has picked out your wedding dress, what colors to coordinate with, the fact that you can reserve the Sheraton for the wedding and reception and that his last name sound good after your first name or that her first name sounds great with your last name. This leads to my point:
My pastor said something that I will have to inscribe to my heart. It was something to the effect of seeing a wife/husband in people who are only seasonal. Meaning don't be quick to think someone is the one when they are only there to teach you one simple thing that particular season. (I think Madea said the same thing). He went on to say some people are married to a seasonal person....All because you fell before you thought. I have done that...I know men do it too, it might not seem like it but they do, I mean they are the ones proposing in most cases....
I have grown up in the sense that I let people go...it took a minute to learn...I am a person who when I feel it I feel it and it is already full blown and if I don't feel it I never will so you might as well stop trying. When I feel it...it's a hard fall from that feeling. I discovered a longtime ago that I just can't deal with bullshyzer. If you are a hurting person who also likes to hurt in the process of your hurting, then as my girl Mariah said it: "It's a Wrap" and "Up out my face." Yeah sometimes the feeling lingers so I then I have to go to the other track on the Memoirs of an Imperfect Angel album called: H.A.T.E.U, as Mariah sings:
I can't wait to hate you
Make you pain like I do
Still can't shake you off
I can't wait to break through these emotional changes
Seems like such a lost cause
I can't wait to face you
Break you down so low there's no place left to go
I can't wait to hate you
oooh (hou, owh, owh, h.a.t.e. u.)
Actually I can use Mariah Carey to break down the whole affair starting with:
"Lover Boy"- Describes the awesome-newness of this dude/girl
"Honey"- How his/her love makes you feel
"Last Kiss"- When it's over
"We Belong Together"- when you miss them like crazy and you want to work it out
"Don't forget about us"- I was the best you ever had don't act like you don't know that chick ain't got nothing on me.
"H.A.T.E.U"- when you know you need to get over it.
"It's a wrap/Up out my face."- I'm over it leave me alone
The bonus track is "Deuces" by Chris Brown, that's when you really know that it is sooooo over. It's not Mariah, but it makes my point .
If we could keep ourselves from planning the wedding on the second date then we would save ourselves the heartache. If we could be real with ourselves and admit to the issues that the person we say we are in love have then we would be better off, meaning if there is something about this guy/girl that is foul to you, you might want to ease back and then finally off...just watch Cheaters and listen to all the quooky things men/women do/say in while cheating...not that that's the only cause of quooky things, but it gives good examples.
That word of advice ought to get me through the first step alone…. Resume is looking right, better than that though, my work ethic has been seen…so in the words of today’s youth…. “Leggo!”