Bad Investments and Wrong People

I had several “you’re kidding me” moments involving ”friends”. I was discussing this with my friend Jazmin (please see my post about Jaz) and she said: “You are just investing time into the wrong people. They aren’t necessarily the people who are going to be able to make you feel your best.”

That statement really helped me out.

I took it as: “STOP INVESTING YOUR TIME INTO THE WRONG PEOPLE.”

AND I KNOW THIS!!!!!

It is important to have a good support system in place because everyone doesn’t always have the best intentions for you in your endeavors.

I learned many years ago that everyone isn’t a friend and even those who are nice to you, can’t always be trusted.

I often shield myself from such toxicity and insincerity.

I realize I need to do two things:
 -Develop thicker skin

 -Recognize when I should retreat

And by retreat I don’t mean run away from a battle, I mean knowing how to pick and choose a battle, as in when do I need to just do me and when do I need to explain myself. As I am an adult I really don’t need to explain myself and if I am ok with whatever actions I take or way that I feel or decision I make I don’t have to explain because I am happy with myself.

I am very happy with who I am and what I do and the only time I question that is when others question me about it, because there is a difference of opinion.

Let me add that aside from thicker skin I need to recognize what advice or opinion I should consider and what is just fluff that I shouldn’t receive. AGAIN... People don’t always have the best intentions when giving you advice.

I am 36 years old today. My path is my path, has it been the traditional path... not exactly ... am I still GREAT... YUP! Do I have a few hardships deal with and wild ideas about how to accomplish goals...YUP!!!

DON’T GET ME WRONG... I am hoping to meet and get to know other people in the future. I know that more positive energy and good hearts are on the way into my life because that is what I ask God for and also I ask to continue to have the discernment to recognize negative energy.

Am I excited about the rest of my life... YES!! I am excited. I do big things and I don’t give myself enough credit. So let’s review....

Things to do:
-Develop thicker skin
-Pick and Choose my battles wisely
-Pick and Choose the best advice/opinion (people don’t alway have the best intentions)
-Stay on my path
-Start appreciating myself for all the great things I do
AND
-Show love to the people who I KNOW got my back
AND!!!!!
-Praise God for all the talent and strength that he gave me to make it through this LIFE.

           

                         

FRIEND FEATURE!!!!! JAZMIN

First Friend Feature: Jazmin... my friend... she’s not famous... yet... but she deserves a feature....

Why is she the featured friend this time around? At first I saw myself as a big sister to Jaz, only for the role to slowly switch as I realized how much wisdom was in her young self. She says things that are like UM did you live here before? Like if I were to say: “I can’t” Jazmin would be like: “But why not?” And suddenly it would be like a grand epiphany happened. 

Jazmin also has a very optimistic view of the world which is an example of #positivevibesonly . She’s not naive (anymore) she understands the ways of the world and when you really dig you find out she keeps it 100 as well, but when I see Jaz its like candy land... buttercups and lemon drops LOL! 

She is a legit opera singer. LEGIT. She can sing, and I have sung around her and her critiques are nice and not mean. She helped me come out of my shell to sing more out in the public. So if she says lets do karaoke I jump up for it like YES! She’s that cool like I sing with an Opera Singer... 

I am gushing about my friend but she is a breath of fresh air. AND I have friends every where and I gush about all my friends for different reasons and I know that all my friends know that I love them. I just decided to feature Jaz cause right now I think we have a lot in common. I know that sooner than later our paths are going to go in separate directions, but I know that I will be a better person having had the time that I did have with her. And I hope that she is better from knowing me although I think she will just be better aware of kpop then anything else. 

To really put it in perspective... you know how everyone says: “Check on your strong friend” sometimes ok most of the time I feel like I am that strong friend. I am the “strong” teacher, I am the strong friend, I am the strong daughter. I am the strong one and NO ONE would ever know that I struggle with things from time to time and I have my hottests (thank god for my hottests), but sometimes you gotta have that person who says: “We need to go do something.”  It is easy for me to get in my bag and stay in my room with my dogs and do my social media ALL DAY!!! Jaz is someone who is like, “We are going bowling, you want to come too?” And I really need that.  I don’t know if I reciprocate, but I try. A person like Jaz gives out positive vibes and in return the people she encounters can also spread positive vibes.